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Signs of a Psychopath: What Science & News Reveal in 2025

19 Sep 202517 Sep 2025by Torey C. Richards, LMHCLeave a Comment

Psychopathy is one of those terms that triggers strong images of cool, manipulative villains, violent criminals, or people who feel no remorse. But the truth is more complex. Recent research, court cases, and psychological studies show that psychopathy is a spectrum, with traits showing up in many different ways, not always in extremes. Here are some of the clearest signs of psychopathy, plus what new findings are changing how we understand it.

I was first drawn to psychology because of my fascination with psychopathy. In fact, when I started out, I imagined myself working for the FBI as a criminal profiler, chasing the shadows of the worst of the human mind. That interest shaped my career. It’s the reason I spent years working in a mental health hospital and inside a corrections facility, where I saw firsthand how these traits play out beyond textbooks. Even now, in my downtime, I catch myself binging crime shows or listening to true-crime podcasts, still captivated by the complexity of psychopathy.

What Psychopathy Is (and Isn’t)

Psychopathy is typically characterized by traits such as callousness, lack of empathy, manipulativeness, boldness, impulsivity, and emotional coldness. These traits are measured using tools like the Hare Psychopathy Checklist (PCL-R) and others. Psychology Today+2Taylor & Francis Online+2
It overlaps with, but is not identical to, Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD). Not all with ASPD are psychopaths; not all psychopaths break the law. Some manage to live “functional” lives. Psychology Today+1

Recent Stories & Insights

A recent story: In the trial of Bryan Kohberger, accused of killing four University of Idaho students, prosecutors were barred (by a judge) from using terms like “psychopath” or “sociopath,” citing that they could prejudice the jury. The decision reflects awareness that these labels carry cultural baggage and can distort how people are perceived before evidence is weighed. The Guardian
The “Corporate Psychopath” Conversation: Business media outlets have reignited discussion around leaders who display traits like superficial charm, ruthless decision-making, and lack of empathy. These individuals may not break laws, but their callousness can devastate teams and organizations.
Psychologists at UC Berkeley are pushing to update how psychopathic personality is measured, beyond the older checklists from the ‘70s. The new model emphasizes three dimensions: boldness, callousness, and disinhibition. This allows for a more graded understanding. Someone can score high on some traits without being a “textbook psychopath.” Berkeley News+1
Another study found people with higher psychopathic traits are less likely to punish injustice when it comes at personal cost. That is, they might see a wrong happening but choose not to intervene if there’s a risk or sacrifice involved. This reveals how moral decision-making can be impaired in subtle ways. PsyPost – Psychology News

Signs That Suggest Psychopathic Traits

Here are some common signs/traits (not a diagnosis) that researchers suggest are associated with psychopathy. If you see a few in someone (or even yourself), it doesn’t mean they’re a psychopath, it just might mean these traits show up more strongly in that person than average.

Lack of Empathy: Difficulty understanding or sharing others’ emotional pain. This can show as dismissiveness or emotional coldness. PMC+1
Superficial Charm: They often come across as charismatic, persuasive, or smooth, but the warmth may feel shallow.
Grandiose Sense of Self: Overconfidence, belief in superiority, entitlement.
Pathological Lying / Manipulation: Lying not just to avoid trouble, but as a habitual strategy to get what they want.
Shallow Emotions: Emotions may be present but fleeting; they may mimic what’s expected without deeply feeling it.
Impulsivity / Irresponsibility: Acting without considering consequences; poor long-term planning.
Lack of Remorse or Guilt: Little or no regret for hurting others or breaking rules.
Need for Stimulation / Boredom Proneness: Getting easily bored, seeking thrills or novelty.
Parasitic Lifestyle: Relying on others financially or socially, exploiting others.
Poor Behavioral Controls: Aggression, irritability, violation of social norms.

Why It’s Important to Be Careful

Stigma & Labels: The word “psychopath” is sensational. In legal settings (like Kohberger’s case), using the label early can bias how people are treated. The Guardian
Spectrum, Not All-or-Nothing: Research is showing that many people have some psychopathic traits without being “dangerous” or criminal. The newer measurement models help recognize that. Taylor & Francis Online+1
Context Matters: Environment, upbringing, neurobiology all play roles. Trauma, neglect, or brain injury can contribute to developing some psychopathic traits. PsyPost – Psychology News+2Psychology Today+2

What to Do If You See These Traits

If someone you know has several of these traits and they cause harm (to themselves or others), encourage / help them seek professional evaluation.
Don’t assume diagnosis. Traits can overlap with other disorders. A clinician can use validated tools (PCL-R, PPI, etc.).
In relationships (work, personal), protect boundaries. Recognize manipulation or deception and assert your needs.
For personal self‐reflection: if you recognize some of these traits in yourself, it doesn’t mean you’re “bad” or irredeemable. Traits can be managed, awareness is the first step.

The Grey Areas

One of the most important lessons from both research and recent stories is that psychopathy is not all-or-nothing.

High-Functioning Psychopathy: Some individuals score high on traits like boldness and low empathy but channel them into socially acceptable arenas—business, politics, or even entertainment. Media often calls them “ruthless visionaries.”
The Everyday Impact: Not every psychopath is violent, but their traits can still corrode trust in workplaces, families, and communities. A co-worker who habitually manipulates or a partner who feels emotionally hollow may not headline the news, but the harm is real.

Final Thoughts

Psychopathy is not just fiction; it’s a real set of personality traits that show up across a spectrum. But much of what people believe comes from movies, sensational headlines, or trial reporting. The real power lies in understanding how these traits work and how they impact not just criminals, but everyday people.

We’re better off when we see psychopathy with clarity, not fear. By recognizing signs, separating myths from facts, and staying grounded, we improve our ability to respond, whether to support others, protect ourselves, or simply understand human behavior a little better.

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Locked In: Why More Young People Are Choosing Hyper-Focus + How to Do It in a Healthy Way

17 Sep 2025by Torey C. Richards, LMHCLeave a Comment

“Locking in” (or being “locked in”) has become one of the buzziest phrases among Gen Z and younger Millennials. It’s about more than just staying busy—it means dedicating yourself to a goal with near-military focus, cutting out distractions, and aligning your habits with what you want to build or become. Newsweek+4Refinery29+4The Guardian+4

If you’ve seen motivational TikToks, to-do list montages, or people deleting apps, resisting social plans, or meal prepping like their future depends on it—it’s probably because they’re trying to lock in. Let’s dig into what’s behind the trend, why it’s appealing, some of its darker sides, and how you can try it out without burning out.

What Is “Locking In”?

Origins & evolution: The phrase appeared in gaming and sports circles first. As an athlete and sports fan I have been familiar with the phrase for a very long time. “Locked in” meant being super focused during a match, practice, or competition. Reddit+2The Guardian+2 Over time, it has shifted to broader usage. Goals related to work, fitness, finances, academics. The Times+3Refinery29+3The Guardian+3
What people are doing: Routines with structure, early alarms, limiting time on phone or social media, meal preps, working on side hustles, studying harder, investing, saving money, etc. Refinery29+2The Washington Post+2
Why now: Part of a shift away from “soft life” aesthetics (rest, comfort, peace) toward “hustle with purpose.” Economic stress, uncertainty, comparisons on social media, and a sense that waiting isn’t enough all feed into it. Refinery29+2The Guardian+2

Why It’s Attractive

Locking in holds appeal because it promises:

Agency: When things feel chaotic or out of control, it feels good to take back control, structure, and direction.
Motivation & momentum: Having a declared goal, public accountability, and a routine helps build momentum and can make progress visible.
Purpose & clarity: It pushes you to clarify priorities, what’s important, what to cut out, what to protect.
Feeling ahead: There’s this sense of “if I lock in now, I’ll be better prepared later” which feels satisfying psychologically. Yahoo+1

Risks & Pitfalls

But as with many intense trends or lifestyle shifts, there are trade-offs. Some things to watch out for:

Burnout: All discipline and no rest often leads to exhaustion. People may push too hard for too long. Refinery29+2The Guardian+2
Rigidity & guilt: When you miss a goal, skip a workout, or need rest, guilt kicks in. The trend can cultivate shame around rest or “off days.”
Comparisons & performance pressure: Social media amplifies curated lives; seeing someone else “lock in” all out can make people feel they aren’t doing enough.
Loss of balance: Sacrificing relationships, spontaneous joy, relaxation for the sake of productivity can degrade wellbeing in other areas.

How to Use “Locking In” Mindfully

If you want to try this trend without letting it dominate or harm your mental health, here are some suggestions:

Set realistic goals
Start with smaller, achievable targets. Break big goals into parts. Don’t try to overhaul everything overnight.
Include rest & joy
Block in time for fun, connection, and rest. Rest isn’t optional; it’s part of sustainable performance.
Make accountability work for you, not against you
Share goals with someone you trust. But don’t let external judgment become your main driver.
Check in with your why
Ask: “Why is this goal important to me?” If the answer starts to feel like “because everyone else is doing it” rather than something meaningful, you might need to adjust.
Adapt & adjust
If something feels toxic, unsustainable, or harming other areas of your life (relationships, health, mental clarity), pivot. Flexibility builds resilience, too.
Celebrate progress
Mark wins, big or small. The process matters, not just the outcome.

Final Thoughts

“Locking in” can be powerful. It’s a collective reawakening of discipline, purpose, and intentional living, especially in times when distraction is easy, and external pressures are high. But strength doesn’t come from endless structure alone. True resilience comes when we combine focus with meaning, rest, connection, and kindness—for ourselves.

So if you’re thinking about locking in: Go ahead. Just make sure you’re doing so in a way that builds you up, rather than wearing you down. Because locking into life should add life, not subtract from it.

Is Your Teen Being Groomed Online? 5 Subtle Signs Parents Often Miss

11 Aug 20257 Aug 2025by Torey C. Richards, LMHCLeave a Comment

The internet gives teens access to the world. It also gives the world access to them. And while most online interactions are harmless, there’s a darker reality many parents don’t want to face: online grooming.

Grooming is a manipulative process where someone, often an adult, builds trust with a young person in order to exploit them emotionally, sexually, or psychologically. It rarely starts with danger. In fact, it usually starts with attention, validation, and kindness.

If you’re a parent, caregiver, or mentor, here are five signs your teen may be experiencing online grooming, along with tips for how to approach the conversation.

1. They’re Suddenly Secretive About Their Online Life

Teens value privacy, but there’s a difference between healthy boundaries and sudden secrecy. If your teen starts hiding apps, frequently changes their passwords, or becomes overly protective of their phone, it could be more than typical behavior. Groomers often encourage secrecy with phrases like, “This is just between us,” or “No one else would understand.”

What to watch for: A noticeable shift in how they use their phone, especially if they seem nervous when you’re nearby.

2. They’re Talking to Someone Older but Won’t Say Much

If your teen mentions a new online friend who seems “cool” or says they “understand them better than you do,” but avoids sharing details, that’s a red flag. Groomers often pose as mentors, romantic interests, or even peers using fake profiles. Their goal is to create emotional dependence.

What to ask: “How did you meet them?” “What do you talk about?” “Have you ever seen their face on video, or do they avoid that?”

3. They’re Acting More Isolated or Withdrawn

One grooming tactic is to slowly disconnect the teen from their support system. If your child begins to withdraw from friends, avoid family activities, or only wants to talk to this one person, that’s a warning sign.

What to look for: A sudden loss of interest in hobbies, hangouts, or school, especially if they’ve been active before.

4. They’re Using Language That Feels Out of Place or Too Mature

Watch for changes in how your teen communicates. If their language becomes overly romantic, sexual, or emotionally intense, it may be a result of grooming. Abusers often try to fast-track emotional intimacy by using pet names or bringing up adult topics.

What to listen for: Phrases like “They say I’m special,” or “No one gets me like they do,” or an unusual curiosity about adult themes.

5. They Get Defensive or Angry When You Bring It Up

A groomed teen may defend the person who’s manipulating them. If your child becomes unusually angry, shuts down, or turns the conversation back on you, it could mean someone else has already gained influence.

What to do: Stay calm. Don’t argue. Your goal is to keep the relationship strong enough that your teen will eventually feel safe opening up.

How to Protect Your Teen Without Losing Their Trust

Start early and talk regularly. Waiting until something feels wrong can make it harder to reach them.
Ask with curiosity, not accusation. Stay open instead of going into detective mode.
Set digital boundaries that protect and empower. Use tools, but also explain the reasons behind them.
Meet their need for connection. Many teens fall into unhealthy dynamics because they feel misunderstood or isolated.

Final Thoughts

If you feel like something is off, trust that instinct. You’re not being overprotective, you’re being present. Online grooming is real, and it often happens right under a parent’s nose. But with awareness and connection, you can protect your teen without losing their trust.

Stay informed. Stay engaged. And keep showing up. Your teen needs you, even when they act like they don’t.

Back to School Blues & Breakthroughs: Helping Kids (and Parents) Adjust with Grace

5 Aug 20255 Aug 2025by Torey C. Richards, LMHCLeave a Comment

As a parent of a very soon to be second and seventh grader, I know that back-to-school season always brings a mix of emotions, excitement, nerves and even dread for both children and their caregivers. Whether your child is starting kindergarten, entering middle school, or stepping into their final year of high school, transitions like these can stir up anxiety, uncertainty, and behavioral shifts. As a parent, it’s easy to focus on school supplies and schedules, but what’s just as important if not more, is preparing their emotional backpack too.

Let’s talk about how to help our kids adjust while keeping ourselves grounded in the process.

1. Normalize the Nerves

One of the most powerful tools we have is validation. If your child says they’re scared or nervous, resist the urge to talk them out of it. Instead, try saying:

“That makes sense. New things/change can feel a little scary sometimes.”

This lets them know they’re not broken for feeling that way and neither are you.

Try this: Share your own memories of being nervous before a school year started. Even a short story can make them feel seen.

2. Create Gentle Routines Early

Summer often brings late bedtimes, inconsistent meals, and a go-with-the-flow rhythm. I for one am embarrassed to admit that my own kids have had more screen time than what is recommended. While flexibility is beautiful, kids feel safer when they can predict what’s coming. Start reinstating routines a week or two before school starts. Sleep schedules, morning habits, and even simple rituals like “quiet time” after dinner can make the transition smoother.

Bonus tip: Let your child help co-create their new routine. Giving them some control builds confidence.

3. Watch for Anxiety in Disguise

Anxiety doesn’t always look like worry. For younger kids, it might show up as:

Headaches or stomachaches
Irritability or clinginess
Avoiding certain topics (like school)
Trouble sleeping

For older kids, you might see withdrawal, snapping at siblings, or insisting “I’m fine” when they clearly aren’t.

Support tip: Instead of pushing for answers, try inviting them into small moments of connection. Sometimes a walk, a car ride, or a quiet task like folding laundry opens up more space for them to talk.

4. Create Emotional Check-In Rituals

Try implementing a daily check-in: “Highs and lows of the day” at dinner, or a quick feelings chart in the morning. If your child isn’t verbal, encourage them to draw, pick emojis, or use colors to express how they’re doing.

5. Prepare Yourself, Too

Sometimes, it’s our own anxiety that gets stirred up when school starts. Maybe you worry about how your child will adjust, or feel guilt for not being as present as you’d like. Give yourself permission to name your feelings, too. Our kids don’t need perfection, they need presence.

Grounding prompt for you:

“What does my child actually need from me today, and how can I give that to them in a way that honors both of us?”

6. Back-to-School Toolkit

Here are a few practical tools to keep in your emotional toolkit this season:

Breathing exercises: Try “box breathing” together: inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 4 , exhale for 4 , hold for 4.
Mantras: Create a morning mantra together. Something like: “I am safe. I am strong. I can ask for help.”
Visual schedules: For younger kids, visual charts help them know what’s coming and feel more in control.
Reconnection time: After school, try 10 uninterrupted minutes of connection before diving into chores or homework.

Final Thoughts:

Back-to-school season isn’t just about pencils and planners, it’s a major emotional transition. But it can also be a season of growth, resilience, and connection if we approach it with curiosity and compassion. Whether your child is clinging to you at drop-off or giving you one-word answers after school, remember: their behavior is communication. And you’re not alone in figuring it out.

Let’s pack their bags with more than just supplies. Let’s fill them up with reassurance, love, and tools for navigating whatever this school year brings.

If this post resonated with you, feel free to share it with another parent or caregiver. We’re all in this together!

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The Psychology of Summer Sadness: Why Some People Feel Low in the Sun

30 Jul 2025by Torey C. Richards, LMHCLeave a Comment

When most people think of seasonal depression, they picture winter: grey skies, cold weather, short days, what’s often known was “The Winter Blues”. But what if you find yourself feeling off when the sun is shining, cookouts are happening, and everyone else seems to be living their best life?

You’re not alone and it’s more common than most people think.

What Is Summer-Onset Seasonal Affective Disorder?

Most of us have heard of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), typically linked to winter. But there’s also a lesser-known subtype called summer-onset SAD, sometimes nicknamed reverse SAD. Instead of feeling low during the darker months, individuals with summer SAD may experience:

Irritability
Anxiety
Restlessness
Trouble sleeping
Loss of appetite
Feeling emotionally disconnected from others

And here’s the thing: they often feel guilty for not enjoying what everyone else seems to be celebrating.

Why Summer Can Trigger Emotional Distress

There’s no single cause, but a few theories offer insight:

Disrupted Routines: Summer often means changes in structure. Kids out of school, vacations, longer daylight hours. For some people, especially those managing mental health conditions, lack of routine can feel destabilizing.
Sleep Interruption: More sunlight means longer days and for many, less restful sleep. That can throw off mood-regulating chemicals like serotonin and melatonin. Some people are very sensitive to even the slightest off balance of these chemicals.
Body Image Pressure: The cultural emphasis on “summer bodies” can trigger shame and self-criticism, particularly for those already struggling with self-esteem. They may feel uncomfortable hitting the pool or the beach if they feel like they don’t have a “beach bod”.
Social Comparison: Social media feeds are flooded with vacations, beach days, and barbecues. If you’re dealing with depression, grief, loneliness, or financial hardship, these images can intensify feelings of disconnection. It may appear as if everyone else is out living their best life while you’re not.
Heat Sensitivity: Believe it or not, excessive heat can actually impact mood and cognition. Some studies suggest it may exacerbate symptoms of anxiety and depression, especially in those already vulnerable. I live in Florida and during the summer, the heat and humidity on the hottest days can feel suffocating, oppressive and downright disrespectful.

What You Can Do If You’re Feeling Low This Summer

Name It Without Shame
You don’t have to justify your emotions. Just because it’s sunny outside doesn’t mean you’re obligated to feel good. Naming what you’re experiencing is the first step toward healing.
Stick to a Grounding Routine
Try to wake, eat, move, and wind down at consistent times, even if your schedule feels “off.” Your nervous system craves rhythm.
Limit the Scroll
If social media is making you feel worse, take a break. Curate your feed with intention. Mute or unfollow accounts that trigger shame or comparison.
Create Cool Spaces
Make your home a haven. Keep your bedroom cool and dark at night, take cool showers, and find shade when outside. A comfortable body helps support a regulated mind.
Talk to a Therapist
You don’t need to wait for things to get worse. If you notice a pattern of seasonal sadness or just feel like you’re carrying more than you can manage, reaching out for support is a powerful act of self-care.

You’re Not Broken, You’re Human

If you feel low during the summer months, it doesn’t mean you’re broken or ungrateful, it means you’re real. Emotions don’t always follow the weather. And healing doesn’t happen on a seasonal schedule.

Let this post be your permission slip to honor your inner climate, no matter what’s happening outside.

Bonus Resource:

Want help creating a simple, supportive summer routine?
Check out my free Summer Mood Tracker and Daily Grounding Checklist .

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Behind the Masks: How Immigration Crackdowns Shatter Mental Well-Being

12 Jun 2025by Torey C. Richards, LMHCLeave a Comment

Across the country, images of ICE agents detaining families flash across our screens and the images of protests in cities like Los Angeles and Baltimore echo through city streets. I’m not here to get into politics or views on immigration reform. I’m here to discuss one critical story that remains hidden: the quiet, unseen impact of immigration enforcement on mental health.

While political debates rage on and policies tighten, countless immigrants, documented and undocumented alike, live in a state of chronic stress. For many, every knock on the door triggers a spike in heart rate. Every siren in the distance evokes a rush of panic. Children go to school wondering if their parents will still be home when they return. Adults skip medical appointments out of fear. Entire communities fall silent.

This isn’t just fear. It’s trauma.

Clinically, we know that chronic anxiety, hypervigilance, and a lack of safety are precursors to more serious mental health issues like generalized anxiety disorder, panic disorder, PTSD, and even somatic symptoms like chronic pain and gastrointestinal distress. The emotional toll doesn’t just affect the individuals targeted by enforcement, it ripples outward, impacting families, classrooms, and entire neighborhoods.

I work in a level one trauma center and have seen first hand the ear on immigrant patient faces that instead of living the hospital better, they will leave in handcuffs or zip tied on their way to a deportation facility. I know someone in the process of getting his green card who works at a prestigious company, but is so anxious that he or someone in his family will be deported that he temporarily stopped driving his car to limit the risk of him being stopped by law enforcement and possibly detained. As much as he loves America, he has considered moving to Canada for his own mental health. I know other professionals, some who are even citizens, but are so disturbed by the way immigration is being enforced that they are actively looking into leaving the country.

For mental health professionals, the challenge becomes how to provide support in a context where clients may not feel safe enough to seek help. Therapists working with immigrant populations often have to do more than just offer counseling; they become advocates, educators, and sometimes the only place where someone feels human again.

You don’t have to protest to make a difference. So what can we do?

First, we must listen. We must create safe spaces where individuals feel seen and heard without judgment or risk. Second, we must acknowledge that systemic stress is a real form of trauma. And third, we must advocate. Mental health care must be part of the conversation in immigration reform.

This is more than just a news headline. Lives are getting ripped apart when they are just trying to survive, to raise their family, and to breathe without fear.

We see the images. We hear the stories. Not the ones of the criminals who don’t deserve to be here, but the ones of the families just want to have the opportunity to make it in America. For them, we need to address the silent suffering, and provide support that’s not just reactive, but proactive.

Mental health is a human right. And no one, regardless of status, should be left behind.

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AI: Its Impact on Mental Health

4 May 2025by Torey C. Richards, LMHCLeave a Comment

Artificial intelligence (AI) has gone from a futuristic concept to being a part of our everyday lives. From Siri to self-driving cars, AI is reshaping how we interact with the world. One area that’s seeing rapid AI integration is mental health.

AI is revolutionizing how mental health support is delivered, but it also has the potential to change the way we experience our emotions, relationships, and even our sense of self. So, what’s the real impact of AI on mental health

Positive Impacts of AI on Mental Health

1. AI-Driven Therapy Apps: Accessibility and Immediate Support
One of the biggest breakthroughs in mental health care has been the development of AI-driven therapy apps. Apps like Woebot, Wysa, and Replika use AI to provide users with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), emotional support, and mental wellness guidance. These apps can be used 24/7, offering instant support when someone feels overwhelmed or anxious.

For individuals who may not have access to in-person therapy due to financial constraints, geographic limitations, or the stigma of seeking mental health care, these AI tools are a game-changer. However, it’s important to remember that while AI can provide immediate relief, it doesn’t replace the nuanced, empathetic care provided by a human therapist.

2. Personalized Mental Health Tools: Custom-Tailored Support
Another exciting development is the use of AI to create personalized mental health strategies. By analyzing data such as sleep patterns, mood tracking, and even activity levels, AI can offer individualized wellness plans. For example, AI can recommend mindfulness exercises, cognitive reframing techniques, or journaling prompts based on a person’s emotional state or behavior patterns.

These tools can empower people to take control of their mental health and tailor their self-care routines to their unique needs. It’s a more proactive approach, putting users in the driver’s seat of their emotional well-being.

Honestly, this is one of the major way I have been using AI, as sort of a life coach or motivational coach when I need a little nudge to get me out of my head and for this, I think AI can be invaluable.

3. Early Detection and Improved Diagnostics
AI is also improving mental health diagnostics. For instance, machine learning algorithms are being used to analyze speech patterns, facial expressions, and even physiological responses to detect early signs of mental health issues like depression, anxiety, and PTSD. This early detection can be important in providing timely interventions before issues escalate.

In clinical settings, AI tools are being used to assist professionals in identifying patterns that may otherwise go unnoticed, helping to catch problems earlier and potentially save lives.

I sometimes use AI to help me differentiate between different diagnosis or to help me come up with an improved treatment plan for a patient. It’s not always perfect, but it usually will at least help me generate some new ideas I may have not come up with on my own.

Negative Impacts of AI on Mental Health

1. Social Media Algorithms and Mental Health
While AI has revolutionized mental health support in many ways, it’s also behind some of the negative aspects of modern life. One of the biggest culprits is social media. AI-driven algorithms determine what we see in our feeds, often pushing content designed to keep us scrolling content that can negatively impact our mental health.

Studies have shown that social media can contribute to feelings of inadequacy, anxiety, and depression, particularly among younger users. AI tends to prioritize engagement, meaning posts that generate strong emotional reactions, whether positive or negative, are more likely to be seen. This can create a cycle of comparison, unrealistic beauty standards, and constant validation-seeking, all of which can undermine self-esteem and mental well-being.

2. Job Insecurity and Stress
The rise of AI in the workplace has also led to concerns about job security. As AI systems become more advanced, more jobs are being automated, leading to uncertainty in industries like manufacturing, retail, and even healthcare. This economic shift can contribute to increased stress, anxiety, and depression, especially for workers in industries that are at risk of disappearing.

The fear of job loss due to automation can lead to feelings of obsolescence and anxiety, making it harder for individuals to cope with their personal and professional futures.

I have had therapists and students , tell me that AI will take our jobs. Well, in my opinion, AI is not likely to take our jobs as much as it will make therapy more available to those who otherwise would not seek therapy. A major part of my job in my current role as a trauma therapist is holding space. Holding space is it’s own concept I will write about at a later time, but it can be essential in therapy and holding space is something that AI can’t effectively do.

3. The Loss of Human Connection
While AI can offer emotional support and guidance, it’s not a substitute for genuine human connection. Research shows that deep, empathetic human interactions are essential for emotional well-being. As AI tools replace more human-driven roles, especially in customer service, therapy, and caregiving, there’s a risk of losing that vital connection.

Though AI can simulate empathy, it lacks the true understanding and warmth of a human being. Over-relying on AI for emotional support could lead to social isolation, where people feel disconnected from the world around them. This can be especially damaging for young people, people with certain disabilities or people who are more vulnerable to feeling disconnected.

4. Over-reliance on AI for Emotional Support
One of the more subtle risks of AI is that people may begin to rely on it too much. For example, some individuals may use AI chatbots as a way to “talk” through their problems instead of seeking human interaction. While these tools can offer support in the short term, they may prevent people from addressing underlying issues with friends, family, or professionals.

Additionally, AI-driven tools cannot provide the same level of emotional intelligence and personalized care that a trained therapist or counselor can offer although at times it can do a very good job mimicking it.

Finding Balance: Using AI Responsibly for Mental Health

1. The Need for Human Touch
AI can be a powerful tool for mental health, but it should complement, not replace, human care. The best approach is a hybrid one: using AI for accessibility, immediacy, and personalized support, but ensuring that there’s a human connection to guide, listen, and offer the empathy that AI simply can’t.

2. Setting Boundaries with Technology
As AI becomes more integrated into our lives, it’s essential to set healthy boundaries. It’s easy to fall into the trap of checking AI-driven apps or social media constantly, seeking validation or support. But to protect mental health, it’s crucial to take breaks, set time limits, and engage in face-to-face conversations with loved ones.

3. Data Privacy and Mental Health
As AI tools collect sensitive mental health data, it’s important to ensure that privacy and security are prioritized. People need to feel confident that their mental health data is being protected and used ethically. When choosing AI tools, look for platforms that value data security and are transparent about how they use your information.

Conclusion: The Future of AI and Mental Health

AI is reshaping the way we think about mental health care. It has the potential to make mental health support more accessible, personalized, and immediate. However, it also poses new challenges, from social media addiction to the loss of human connection.

I believe that the goal should be to integrate AI in a way that complements traditional mental health practices while maintaining the irreplaceable value of human empathy and connection. It’s important to be mindful of how AI impacts our mental well-being and how we can use it responsibly for both our mental health and society’s overall emotional health.

Questions: Are you using AI for mental health support? What are your thoughts on its role in your well-being? Leave a comment below to share your experiences or ask questions!

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Navigating the Festive Frenzy: Strategies to Manage Holiday Stress

4 Dec 2023by Torey C. Richards, LMHCLeave a Comment

The holiday season, with its twinkling lights and merry melodies, often brings a mix of joy and stress. As a licensed mental health counselor and a father, I’ve seen and experienced the various shades of the holiday season. While it’s a time for celebration and family, it also comes with its unique set of pressures: financial constraints, family dynamics, and a seemingly endless to-do list. Here are some strategies to help you manage holiday stress and savor the joy of the season.

1. Acknowledge Your Feelings

First and foremost, it’s important to acknowledge your feelings. It’s okay if you’re not brimming with holiday cheer. The holidays can evoke a range of emotions, and it’s normal to feel overwhelmed, sad, or stressed. Recognizing and accepting these feelings is the first step in managing them.

2. Set Realistic Expectations

The portrayal of the holiday season in media and culture often sets an unrealistic standard of perfection. It’s crucial to set realistic expectations for yourself and your celebrations. Not everything has to be perfect, and it’s okay to scale back on decorations, gifts, or events. Remember, the holiday spirit isn’t about grandeur, but about warmth and connection.

3. Plan and Prioritize

Planning can significantly reduce stress. Make a list of what you need to do and categorize them by priority. This could include shopping, cooking, and attending events. Don’t hesitate to trim down your list by removing less important tasks or delegating them.

4. Set a Budget

Financial stress is a major aspect of holiday anxiety. To avoid this, set a budget for gifts, food, and other expenses. Be honest about what you can afford, and stick to your budget. Remember, meaningful gifts don’t have to be expensive; often, it’s the thought that counts.

5. Learn to Say No

You don’t have to participate in every activity or event. Overcommitting can lead to burnout. It’s okay to say no to certain invitations or responsibilities. Your well-being is paramount, and those who care about you will understand your need to prioritize it.

6. Maintain Healthy Habits

In the whirlwind of the season, it’s easy to let go of healthy habits. Try to maintain your regular routine, including eating healthily, exercising, and getting enough sleep. Physical well-being greatly influences mental health.

7. Take a Breather

When you start to feel overwhelmed, take a break. Even a few minutes of solitude can be refreshing. Practice deep breathing, meditation, or a quick walk outside. This brief respite can reset your stress levels and help you approach tasks with a clearer mind.

8. Connect Meaningfully

The essence of the holiday season is connection. Spend quality time with your loved ones, engage in meaningful conversations, and create lasting memories. In a season that can become materialistic, remind yourself and others that the best gift is quality time spent together.

9. Seek Professional Help if Needed

If you find yourself feeling persistently sad, anxious, irritable, or hopeless, consider seeking help from a mental health professional. There’s no shame in seeking support, especially during times that can amplify underlying issues.

10. Reflect and Appreciate

Finally, take some time to reflect on the year gone by. Acknowledge your achievements and the challenges you’ve overcome. Practice gratitude for the big and small blessings in your life. This positive reflection can shift your perspective and reduce stress.

The holiday season doesn’t have to be a time of overwhelming stress. By acknowledging your feelings, setting realistic expectations, and practicing self-care, you can navigate the festive frenzy with more ease and joy. Remember, the true essence of the season lies in the warmth of relationships and the joy of simple pleasures. May your holidays be filled with peace, love, and happiness.

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Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD): A Brief Overview

24 Oct 2023by Torey C. Richards, LMHCLeave a Comment

What is Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)?

BPD is a mental health condition characterized by intense emotional experiences, difficulty in maintaining stable relationships, and a pattern of unstable self-image. It’s important to understand that individuals with BPD often experience intense emotions, fear of abandonment, and may have a history of unstable interpersonal relationships.

Common Symptoms of BPD:

1. Fear of abandonment or rejection.

2. Unstable personal relationships, which can be characterized by intense love followed by intense dislike.

3. Unstable self-image or sense of self.

4. Impulsive behaviors, which might include spending sprees, unsafe sex, substance abuse, or binge eating.

5. Recurring thoughts of self-harm or suicidal tendencies.

6. Intense mood swings that can last a few hours to a few days.

7. Chronic feelings of emptiness.

8. Explosive anger or difficulty controlling anger.

9. Paranoid thoughts or dissociative feelings, especially under stress.

Being in a Relationship with Someone with BPD:

Being in a relationship with someone who has BPD can be challenging, yet rewarding. Their emotional intensity can lead to passionate and deep connections. However, the fear of abandonment and intense emotional reactions can be difficult to navigate.

1. Empathy is Crucial: Understand that their emotions and reactions are real and intense for them, even if they seem exaggerated to you.

2. Communication: Open dialogue can help in understanding each other’s triggers and finding ways to navigate them together.

3. Setting Boundaries: It’s essential for both partners to set and respect boundaries to ensure a healthy relationship.

4. Seeking Support: Both partners might benefit from couples counseling or therapy.

Tips for Supporting Your Partner with BPD:

1. Educate yourself about BPD. Understanding the disorder can help in empathizing with your partner.

2. Avoid invalidating their feelings. Instead, listen and validate their experiences.

3. Encourage them to seek professional help if they haven’t already.

4. Take care of your mental well-being. Consider joining a support group or seeking therapy for yourself.

Remember:

Every individual with BPD is unique. The symptoms and experiences might vary. It’s essential to approach the relationship with patience, understanding, and love.

Bed Rotting and Gen Z: A Trend, A Statement, or A Cry for Help?

25 Sep 202324 Sep 2023by Torey C. Richards, LMHCLeave a Comment

Tucked away in the algorithm-driven corners of TikTok, Twitter (or should I say “X”), and Instagram, there’s a phenomenon gaining traction, especially among Gen Z: “bed rotting.” But what is it about this act that resonates so deeply with today’s youth? Is it a passing trend, a form of silent protest, or a deeper sign of the times?

Diving into Bed Rotting

For the uninitiated, bed rotting is the act of lying in bed for prolonged periods, not due to illness or physical fatigue, but often driven by emotional or mental states. While older generations might dismiss it as sheer laziness or a lack of ambition, the reality is far more nuanced.

Why Gen Z?

This generation, armed with technology from a young age, has seen the world in ways no previous generation has. From global crises to the rise of influencer culture, their worldview is unique. So, why is bed rotting becoming a “thing” among them?

Overwhelm & Digital Burnout: Gen Z is the first generation to grow up fully immersed in the digital world. While this brings unparalleled connectivity, it also brings information overload, comparison culture, and a sense of never truly “switching off”.
Protest Against Hustle Culture: Recently I wrote a blog post about Hustle Culture. For a generation witnessing the fallout of relentless hustle, bed rotting can be seen as an act of rebellion. A silent protest against the “always-on” mentality.
Mental Health Awareness: Unlike previous generations, Gen Z is more vocal about mental health. Bed rotting can be both an expression of mental exhaustion and a plea for understanding.
Isolation in Connectivity: Ironically, in an era of global connection, many feel isolated. Physical interactions have been replaced with likes, shares, and retweets. The bed becomes a safe cocoon against the paradox of feeling alone in a crowded digital space.

Beyond the Trend: Implications & Understandings

Bed rotting, whether a conscious act or subconscious retreat, has tangible implications:

Physical Health: Extended periods in bed can lead to health issues, from muscle weakening to sleep disturbances.
Mental Well-being: While it might start as a retreat, prolonged bed rotting can exacerbate feelings of isolation, anxiety, and depression.

Breaking the Cycle

Understanding is the first step. If Gen Z’s bed rotting is a statement, then it’s one we should listen to. Solutions can be multi-faceted:

Open Conversations: Encourage open dialogues about feelings without judgment. Sometimes, understanding the “why” can pave the way for change.
Digital Detox: Encourage breaks from the online world. Rediscover offline hobbies and passions.
Redefine Success: Challenge the traditional narratives of success and achievement. It’s okay to have days of rest and reflection.
Professional Help: If bed rotting becomes chronic, consider seeking therapeutic interventions.

Conclusion

For Gen Z, bed rotting isn’t just a trend; it’s a statement. It’s an embodiment of their experiences in a world that’s both incredibly connected and profoundly isolating. Recognizing it as such allows us to approach the phenomenon with empathy, offering support and understanding rather than judgment.