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Monthly Archives: March, 2013

Shhh, Let’s Not Talk About It: How Families Are Haunted By Incest And Sexual Abuse

Nearly every person I’ve counseled who has been sexually abused was abused by a family member, not a stranger. In families there is an unspoken trust, one that says we will support and protect each other, especially the children. Child abuse goes against that unspoken trust. Perhaps that’s one of the reasons, on top of …

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A Brief Look At Prescription Drug Use In Teenagers

I’ve spent a lot of time speaking with parents about teen substance abuse and still find it amazing that most parents are worried more about their child’s friends or a drug dealer exposing them to hard drugs and are still ignorant to the potential for drug abuse the lies right in their own homes. They …

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On Domestic Violence And Why Women Stay

Have you been watching the Jodi Arias trial? It’s a fascinating one that’s for sure. I haven’t so much as watched it as listened to it whenever I am in the car  and while I have my opinions, I’ll save that for after the trial. The thing that caught my attention today was the domestic …

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brOKen: Why We Hide How We Really Feel

This incredible piece of art is titled “brOKen” and it’s by a great artist named DestinyBlue. She says that the inspiration for this piece came from an observation she made while on the London Underground. She saw a girl who was crying quietly, but had on a shirt with the phrase “YOLO” which stands for “You Only …

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Childhood Abuse Linked To Asthma And Obesity In African American Women

According to research done at the University School of Medicine and Boston University’s Slone Epidemiology Center, Black women who have been physically and/or sexually abused during childhood and adolescence are more likely to become obese in adulthood as well as are more likely to later go on to develop asthma. The study appeared in the …

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Can We Trust Our Five Senses?

Earlier today one of my students asked what I thought was a fairly odd question. She asked me, “How do we know we can trust our senses?” At first I thought she was asking about senses in the terms of instinct because I have some very strong views on trusting our instincts, but she clarified …

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Motivating Your Unmotivated Teen Part 4: The Power of Empathy

By now you should be fully aware that motivating your teenager is not about trying to trick, manipulate, threaten or punish them into change. Motivation comes from having an authentic relationship with your teenager that plants the seeds for change. What you want is cooperation instead of conflict. You don’t want a relationship that says “I’m right …

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How Young Is Too Young For Students To Discuss Sexual Orientation

Here in central Florida there has been an ongoing debate about how young is too young for students to discuss sexual orientation at school, especially when that orientation is different than the perceived norm. Bayli Silberstein, a student leader at Carver Middle School in Leesburg, Florida wants to create a gay-straight alliance (GSA) at her school …

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Motivating Your Unmotivated Teen Part 3: The Stages Of Change

All changes has both negative and positive consequences, which is why it is normal for people to want to change and not want to change simultaneously. That is the hallmark of ambivalence. Indecisiveness is a natural part of the change process and something that often drives parents crazy when they are trying to move their …

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Motivating Your Unmotivated Teen Part 2: Understanding Change

In part one we started discussing the importance of having a good relationship with your adolescent in order to help facilitate motivation and change. Often times, too many parents try to motivate their child instead of developing motivation as a function of their relationship with their child. That means that you have to serve as …

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